Sibling rivalry occurs when a second child is born into the family. In this case the room for jealousy set in from the older child who may start feeling that his parents have shifted their attention, love and care from him. The older child begins to feel unloved and uncared for which may result to him quietly planning tough time or payback time to his younger one.
From experience, I had this issue between my two kids and since then it has been hectic. Ever since the second child was born, the older one has been a bit jealous of her. Well, I can say it is a bit normal in childhood but if something is not done on time can lead to serious problem between them which in turn can cause more problems in their relationship.
I have my own fair share of rivalry with my younger sister even as adults. We almost never agree on most things. The worst part is that she always wanted things to be done her own way in spite she is younger. Often time we quarrel over one issue or the other and then settle after keeping malice for as long as we want. When trying to reconcile with her, she adds more salt to the wound. It hurts so bad to have conflict with your siblings and can sometimes leads to a long term malice. It’s unfortunate my parents never bother to resolve our issues neither did they set boundaries, expectations and Consequences while we were kids. No parents nowadays would want to experience this among their children.
I wouldn’t want to watch the same thing happening with my kids and doing nothing about it like my parents didn’t. So I did my research carefully which I put into practice and it works amazingly.
Nonetheless, I’m going to share with you on how to sense the very onset of rivalry between your kids and how you can prevent it from becoming a frequent habits and causing discord in their relationship.
According to research, Sibling rivalry is the jealousy, competition and fighting between brothers and sisters. It is a concern for almost all parents of two or more kids. Problems often start right after the birth of the second child. Sibling rivalry usually continues throughout childhood and can be very frustrating and stressful to parents.
Below are the certain things to know about sibling rivalry:
Neglecting to find out the root of conflict.
Lack of structure on clear rules, expectations and Consequences.
No attention given to the kids when cases are reported.
Lack of problem solving which strains the kids relationship the more.
One kid becoming favourite than the other.
Positive Ways To Handle Sibling Rivalry:
Find the root cause of the conflict between them and help resolve them.
Set structure on rules of no hitting, fighting or exchanging words otherwise there will be consequences. No kids like consequences so they will behave when you tell them this.
Give positive attention to your kids. It shows how much you care and understand them.
Always solve their problems at any given time instead of ignoring them.
Love your kids equally. No favourite of any child should be tolerated.