A few days ago, I stumbled on a write-up about never missing an opportunity to say ”I love you” to our children. It was a motivational article written by Kemi Oyedepo, Founder of Crisis Proof Your Family (CPYF).
Here is what she said:
“I hope you have done this today. If you haven’t, please do so. Apart from showing your love perhaps by providing what they need, etc, be deliberate about voicing it. A child hearing these words from their parent, makes them feel secure and it boosts their confidence.
Also allow them to freely express their emotions and tell you they love you (and please respond when they do). Don’t dwell on the fact that your own parents/guardians rarely or never said it to you. When you know better, do better!”
In addition to what she said, the heartfelt love that we have for our children isn’t enough; such love must be proven in our actions. By proving it, our children become more secured and confident in us.
This can be achieved by putting them first to other responsibilities. Saying the three affectionate words “I love you” to them is never complete without proving it in our actions.
Sacrifices must be made to prove that you love them. Your time for them, no matter how busy you are should also follow suit. This in turn will help your children to make you their best friend, not just seeing you as their mom or dad.
It will help them find it easy to open up to you as they continue confronting the realities of life. In addition to this, their minds will be cleared of doubts and confusion with respect to their freedom to approach you on any given issue.
Being a parent isn’t enough. You should be a friend as well. To be one’s best friend, you must have passed the test of time, fully convincing that friend that they can trust in you. The same relationship can be established with our children. Always remember, parental love is very powerful.